Reflections on Design and Worldmaking

66 Ways We Differ

  1. How we define “proper” behavior
  2. How and when we greet each other
  3. What’s considered common courtesy
  4. What’s polite and impolite
  5. How closely we stand to each other
  6. Holidays we celebrate and how we celebrate them
  7. How we show respect and disrespect
  8. How and when we use money, credit, and bartering
  9. The range in which we negotiate
  10. What is modest or risqué  
  11. What is embarrassing or shameful
  12. What makes us feel good and what depresses us
  13. What makes us proud and what shames us
  14. What, when and how we eat and drink
  15. What we wear, and when and where we wear it
  16. How we see and behave toward sickness and health
  17. How and when we seek and use health services
  18. What we find funny or sad
  19. How and when we use means of transportation
  20. What we buy and sell and when, how and with whom we do it
  21. When, where and how we sit and stand
  22. If, how and when we touch each other
  23. What we believe
  24. What we value
  25. What makes “common sense”
  26. What are worthwhile goals in life
  27. What is beautiful or ugly
  28. The nature of God and other religious beliefs
  29. What we believe we need and don’t need
  30. Whether privacy is desirable or undesirable
  31. Who makes what decisions and in what circumstances
  32. Whether a person controls his/her own life or whether fate determines it
  33. What should be communicated directly or indirectly
  34. What or who is clean or dirty
  35. What language, dialect and tone of voice we use
  36. To whom we speak and to whom not
  37. The role of the individual
  38. The roles of men and women and how each should behave
  39. The roles parents and children and how each should behave
  40. The importance of harmony in a group
  41. The importance of competition between individuals
  42. Social class
  43. Educational levels
  44. Hierarchy in business relationships
  45. How time is understood and used
  46. Whether schedules are important or unimportant
  47. The importance of tradition and rituals
  48. How often we smile, whom we smile at, what it means when we smile
  49. How strangers interact
  50. How we interact with a person in authority
  51. How we interact with a person serving us, e.g., in a restaurant
  52. Relationships and obligations between friends
  53. Relationships and obligations toward extended family members and relatives
  54. Facial expressions, and other nonverbal behavior and gestures and when they are used
  55. Crowd or audience behaviors
  56. The importance of preparing for the future
  57. How we see old age and value elders
  58. Whether conversation should be formal or informal
  59. What should be said: what left unsaid
  60. Whether, when and how and with whom we make “small talk”
  61. How we perceive what is friendly and unfriendly
  62. How open or guarded we are with information
  63. What behavior is ethical and not ethical
  64. How, whom and how much we entertain
  65. How or whether we take turns, stand line, etc.
  66. How often we change jobs or move to a new house, where and why

Source: http://interculturaltoolkit.fi/wp-content/uploads/2017/12/66-ways-we-differ.pdf

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